I did the unthinkable, the taboo, the irreversible: I got a matching tattoo.
The one kind of tattoo most feared and most regretted, right? Do a basic Pinterest search and you’ll find an infinite number (pun intended) of infinity symbols, locks & keys, heart halves, and anchors on all the seemingly same ankles, fingers, and wrists, but despite the eye-rolls and snickers these inks incur, sometimes, as you scroll through the images thinking, These idiots, how cliche, you kind of secretly want one.
And, it’s okay!
Matching tats are scary, for sure, but there’s something exciting about sharing something meaningful with your better half, whether that person is your sister, brother, partner or best friend. I’m going to make the case, of course, that matching tats can be cool, individualistic, and (hopefully) guilt-free.
So, how do you go about even approaching such a topic without feeling lame? How can you be rational about something so completely irrational?
Here are some tips, myths, and confessions from our own matching tat experience!
For a long time. Not a day or a week or even a month. I know, it’s wicked hard to wait once you’ve come up with the most perfect, genius idea, but I promise, you’ll love it even more when you wait. Mike and I waited more than a year!
2. TOGETHER & APART
Just because the tats match, doesn’t mean you two have to. In other words, the image may be the same, but your connection to it should be personal and individualistic. Choose an idea that represents you as an individual and shares something meaningful with your buddy.
Mandi: The Fibonnaci sequence, the perfect ratio as it’s known, is a hopeful reminder, to me, that some things occurring in nature are perfect in their own design.
Mike: “The numbers of the Fibonnaci sequence work off their predecessors (0+1=1, 1+1=2, 2+1=3, etc.) I think it’s beautiful how there is a mathematical way to represent a form derived from its functionality. We can find beauty in things that are functionally sound.”
Our tattoo actually contradicts this concern. We believe that the relationships you have with people are always permanent, because they happened. They are permanent in your memory sure, and maybe you don’t want to remember certain relationships with certain people, but that person, and the effect they had on your character, who you were and who you eventually chose to be or continue to be is affected by the people with whom you choose to spend your time. So a matching tat was an outward expression of the internal effect that we’ve imposed on each other’s person, whether it be a conscious or unconscious effect.
I know, deep. 😉